“He just doesn’t get it. I try to tell him if he wants to improve his life, he has to start by accepting himself. He does a good job of helping everybody else, but I keep telling him it has to start with him loving and accepting himself.”
As I listened to this story in our church discussion group yesterday, a flood of thoughts filled my mind. It reminded me of four significant teachings:
1) Joey Korn’s energy work demonstrating the importance of blessing ourselves first, and blessing ourselves at least twice a day… and again at any time a negative situation arises throughout the day (see previous blog article or www.dowsers.com ).
2) Louise Hay’s work, You Can Heal Your Life, teaching us that loving ourselves can heal everything in our lives.
3) Doreen Virtue’s teaching that we are “perfect, whole, and complete, and we are very, very loved.”
4) The repeated message that Angels are at our side 24/7 but cannot act in our behalf unless we ask for help. The only exception is that they can intercede in a traumatic event that would lead to our demise before our time to depart the earth plane.
As I listened to his story, his frustration with trying to help his friend, for the first time I identified with what it must feel like to be an Angel and not be able to intercede in someone’s behalf without permission. Having been a “Miss Fix It” all my life, this sudden realization was a huge ah-ha moment.
Funny how life makes good on one’s promises to “do better next time.” I had no more walked out of the church discussion group when a “crisis” phone call came from a family member. This person seems to be in continual crisis.
Hmm, is this person asking for my help or just wanting to vent? Perhaps a 5th insight for the morning’s teaching might be the importance of setting boundaries?
Until a person is ready to help themselves, perhaps the best thing we can do is to bless them, see them as perfect, whole and complete, and set healthy boundaries for ourselves.
The person in the discussion group concluded his story with perhaps still yet another insight…”Maybe the thing I need to do is just be an example.”
